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Friday, December 18th, 2009
Need, in terms of Personal Prophesy philosophy which I use exclusively in giving playing card readings, is an extremely powerful force.
Need encompasses the deepest, most intense yearning of the heart to feel that sense of completeness which only one partner – the right partner – can provide.
Women are intuitively perceived to express “need” much more easily than men do, mainly because women tend to live their lives far more in touch with their own true feelings.
Men, on the other hand, tend to be more withdrawn in terms of expressing “need” simply because they put so much effort into denying for themselves what they consider to be emotional weakness. At least in the external sense. When I conduct card readings focused on a particular man, it’s readily perceivable the depth of the need he feels.
Need is interpreted quite a large part of the time in readings for men as weakness in terms of their own perception. Men, after all, aren’t designed to accept feelings of weakness in terms of themselves. They are, by nature, hunters and protectors. They are raised to be strong and courageous. Even their own mothers have told them, “Boys don’t cry,” which in essence tells them from a very early age that males do not “feel”, they instead “react” by being fearless, strong, unaffected by emotion. Which is why so many men portray themselves as needless in their relationships.
A totally wrong concept when it comes to the human heart and Personal Prophesy card readings
After years of conducting psychic/intuitive readings for men from around the world, I can tell you that they are extremely deep feeling, they do suffer incredibly intense emotions, they have a strong tendency to be highly sensitive beings, but – and this is an awfully huge “BUT” – they are so adept at stuffing these emotions and their own relentless feelings of neediness behind a careless facade enabling them to project themselves as cool, aloof, unaffected.
This is one of the reasons why I urge women engaged in difficult, unsatisfying relationships to decisively choose to remove themselves from these relationships and simply walk away even when they don’t want to take such a step. Not because there is no love on the part of the men they are involved with, clearly there is love in the hearts of these men as perceived in the cards.
The step these women decide to take “out” of these relationships holds tremendous potential to lead these men toward genuine feelings of loss and ultimately, need. The need to get that relationship back and become better partners for these women in the end.
Remember that old saying, “You don’t know what you had until it’s gone?” It’s almost magical when it comes to a man who seemed emotionally indifferent during a relationship. Give him enough time to realize how much he misses you and what he had when he was in this relationship with you and you’ll find him wanting to be a better man for you as a result of his own deep-seated feelings of need.
Tags: love, need, Personal Prophesy, psychic, readings, relationships, truth
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Friday, December 11th, 2009
Those driven by performance and perfectionism come down very hard on themselves whenever they meet setbacks or outright failure on the paths they’ve chosen to take to the future.
The difficulty arises from their own determined sense of commitment to meet certain personal goals, an unwavering pursuit of success and achievement, and the urgent need to do everything exactly right and in precisely (what they consider to be) the most correct time frame.
All of this will be seen in Personal Prophesy card readings as literally driving these individuals into the ground. Not to mention practically driving themselves completely crazy in the process.
If this describes you, it’s time to take a good hard look at the intuitive “whys” involved and to start bringing change to your life for the better as as a result of such psychic awareness.
Allowing yourself the room to “fail” – as much as you may despise the word – absolutely must become an option as you continue to follow the course you are taking toward the future.
Perfectionism is, in itself, a seriously debilitating disease. (Take it from one who knows!) It not only severely frustrates the mind, cripples the emotions and whittles away at the spirit, but it can wreak serious havoc on the body’s ability to maintain wellness as well.
Please consider that, without your health, you essentially have very little to keep you going. Peace of mind and wholeness in body comes from realizing genuine quality of life means living your life to the fullest in the present while accepting your own limitations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling future in the long run.
I urge you to allow yourself to let the setbacks and failures you encounter, go. Seriously: Just let them go, forcing yourself to put them behind you into the past – where they belong. Stop trying to analyze these setbacks and failures, just accept them as a sign that you were not meant to proceed with your life in that particular direction.
No more tears, no more agonizing. Period. Simply say to yourself, “It happened. It’s over. It is only a moment in time that I can effectively put behind me.” Then, emotionally do, in fact, walk away from it.
Personal Prophesy readings give us strong psychic guidance
My personal opinion, after conducting hundreds and hundreds of readings for others (and reading my own cards as I’ve done for years), when something so seemingly “simple” in our lives goes wrong in terms of a setback or failure, it’s a divine message to us that we are plainly not intended to take the step forward we had anticipated, that we are being directed by the hand of God (the power of the Universe – however you wish to personally define the force which inspires us to live our lives on earth) to learn from an unexpected lesson and gain personal wisdom and insight for ourselves from it.
As Personal Prophesy teaches us, often we can push and push to realize an important goal for ourselves – especially something we’ve seriously struggled with for quite some time. When it isn’t the “calling” we are really intended to pursue in living our lives, the more we try to move forward, the more we face setbacks and failures which pull us distinctly backward – very much like quicksand.
Visualize yourself, right now, as mired in such quicksand. Struggling to get yourself free of it may seem like the natural thing to do, but inevitably, you are only incapacitating yourself all the more. But by offering no further resistance and allowing someone else to pull you from it, to guide you from such a helpless moment in time, you make it possible for yourself to answer your own true calling as you move toward the future.
For those who are facing setbacks and failures in their academic lives, the cards will unequivocally indicate that the time is swiftly approaching for these individuals to start actively “doing” meaningful things with the education they’ve recieved thus far, rather than spending more time trying to become more educated.
The more you feel your academic life is disintegrating and that you, yourself, are becoming more mired in that quicksand, the more you need to consider seeking an alternate course of action in terms of the future. This is, according to Personal Prophesy philosophy which I teach in my book “The Message”, not the path most intended for you.
It is as if those most affected by setbacks and failures in their lives are being “paged” by the Higher Power to move forward and, in a very positive and decisive manner, to begin “Doing” that which you are being called on to do, at this particular point in your life.
Setbacks and failures have a distinct purpose in our lives.
Specifically, setbacks and failures are meant to help lead us and guide us into the direction we are meant to go. Once we are able to have enough faith that the Universe will conspire with us and not against us to enable us to achieve happier, more successful lives, we can let ourselves off the hook where setbacks and failures are concerned.
We can see them as merely road signs to the future…the future we are meant to live and enjoy.
Tags: failure, perfectionism, Personal Prophesy, psychic, psychic awareness. scientist, readings, setbacks
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Sunday, November 29th, 2009
After nearly 30 years of conducting Psychic Love Doctor readings for myself and others, a few irrefutable insights have revealed themselves over and over again.
Specifically:
- Real love never dies, even under the worst possible circumstances
- The joy of love in relationships always outweighs the pain
- The difference between love and hate is literally the turn of a leaf
In this discussion, let’s concentrate on #3: The difference between love and hate is literally the turn of a leaf.
Did you watch one of the latest episodes of “House” in the last couple of weeks? If you did, you might have caught an extremely telling moment between Cuddy and House near the end of the show.
TV.com posted in its Ignorance is Bliss Episode Recap:
House asks Cuddy if she wants to go for dinner. Cuddy refuses to play along and tells him to do his job. As Cuddy leaves, House intercepts her and asks if they can at least be civil. He then gives her the tickets for a holiday carnival, and says he’s just doing it to be nice. Cuddy refuses to take them and says she’ll see him tomorrow.
Now, think about it. If there was absolutely nothing in Cuddy’s heart for House, would she have rejected those tickets for herself and her daughter to attend a holiday carnival as abruptly as she did?
“I don’t want them,” she’d firmly stated.
Who says that to a nice gesture, a gift, from someone you feel affection for as a friend? No one. The gift is graciously accepted or declined with an “I’m sorry, that was nice of you, but we can’t go” or something along those lines and the carnival is either attended or not attended by the recipients of those tickets.
Psychic readings will clearly show unfinished emotional business between two people – especially the kind where pain and anger from the past are concerned – creating such an abrupt, even harsh response:
“I don’t want them.“
“I don’t need your help.”
“I don’t care that you’re lonely and hurting.”
“I hate you.”
Hate is the real biggie in these cases. Psychic readings never fail to reveal that no one who is truly resolved emotionally in terms of an ended relationship ever feels the passion and rage attached to the word “hate.”
Instead, they feel sympathy, empathy, sorrow, regret in connection to that ex-partner. Perhaps even indifference, apathy or just plain nothing by merely shrugging the shoulders and walking away.
Using the word hate and finding it characterized in psychic readings on the other hand, reveals so much more.
According to the article, Brain has thin line between love and hate, scientists reveal:
There really is a thin line between love and hate – at least in the brain, scientists have shown. A new study reveals that the brain’s “love” and “hate” circuits share identical structures.
Professor Semir Zeki, who carried out the brain scan study at University College London, said: “Hate is often considered to be an evil passion that should, in a better world, be tamed, controlled, and eradicated. Yet to the biologist, hate is a passion that is of equal interest to love.”
Did you get that?
Hate is a passion that is of equal interest to love.
In other words, even our own brains inherently understand the meaningful emotional connection between love and hate!
The same holds true in Personal Prophesy card readings.
Hate and love do share remarkably similar characteristics in such psychic readings and a bond that must be paid attention to. Both reveal the core of genuine passion – one positive, the other negative, yes – but it’s ‘passion’ just the same.
Such strong energy attached to that passion is very much akin to the difference between the turn of a leaf.
Consider that whenever the word hate is used in relation to another person we’ve shared an emotional bond with, particularly an ex-partner, there’s an awful lot of unresolved emotional baggage attached. So much so that the heart has chosen to transform that “baggage” into something it can articulate with a word to describe the anger and pain: Hate.
Hate allows us to take a defensive power stance – especially when we feel the most helpless emotionally. It gives us a feeling of control and protection over feelings of extreme pain and anger. And it does it’s job well.
However, when you conduct Personal Prophesy readings for yourself and others – or you have a Personal Prophesy reading conducted for you, you’ll quickly find that hate is far closer to love than was ever previously imagined.
The cards will clearly show that such hate is essentially only a defensive posture taken. Beneath that hate still lies a tremendous amount of love – wounded and wrapped in pain and anger as it may be. The bottom line is that it’s still love.
By perceiving this type of revelation in psychic readings, you put yourself in the position to be able to intuitively guide yourself and others toward a higher understanding in terms of such hate, slowly over time.
You’ll also discover that hatred, because it is so closely related to love, can in many instances be worked through and brought to a point of positive resolve under seemingly simple circumstances. For instance, an ex genuinely expresses that he or she is sorry and wants to make amends. He or she goes to great lengths to try to gain forgiveness. A lengthy period of separation brings both to the point of a new beginning.
To learn more about what what causes hatred to help you better understand your own Personal Prophesy card readings, remember most of all:
As we change from day to day, our emotions change the same. Consider that what you felt ten years ago, five years ago, five months ago – isn’t how you truly feel today. The same holds true in terms of our relationships.
Harsh words spoken actually do betray a heart that still cares.
It’s what you do to turn that situation around as you put one foot in front of the other toward the future that makes all the difference in the world between hating and loving.
Think about that.
Tags: Cuddy, hate, House, love, Personal Prophesy, psychic, readings, relationships
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Friday, November 20th, 2009
So often I’m asked, “How do I change my life?”
Surprisingly, the answer that question is really very simple. And yet, it can seem horribly complex and overwhelming when you are mired in a life that seems utterly incapable of change.
In terms of Personal Prophesy card reading, the method I teach in my book “The Message: Your Secrets in the Cards”, the best place to start is by first changing the way you think about yourself and the life you’re living.
After all, you are the core substance of your own reality. When you change, your reality changes as well. As your reality changes, those around you are impacted by that change. It naturally follows that the world impacting your life inevitably changes in turn.
If you are broken in terms of your own heart and spirit (as so many of us are), you aren’t able to embrace the Universe and all it has to offer in the way of true blessings. Change in regard to yourself can then seem extremely difficult – if not practically impossible.
But the truth is, nothing is impossible in terms of Personal Prophesy card readings.
Love? It’s definitely attainable. Happiness? It’s always within arm’s reach. Healing? Absolutely. Fulfillment? Yes, it’s right there for you to seize and enjoy. All it takes is shifting your focus away from all that isn’t working in terms of your life and focusing instead on making your own life better by creating a new way of thinking and believing, by literally creating a new “reality” for yourself.
Such metaphysical thinking can – and will – bring healing and genuine empowerment to your life.
Just the simple act of taking a deck of ordinary playing cards and imparting to them your own innate spiritual and psychic energy as you shuffle them and lay the cards down for a reading, you are already breaking free from your own chains of impossibility. You are empowering yourself through your own intuitive insight to see clearly in front of you the tremendous amount of possibility that exists for your life.
Imagine your life right now as a mirror. What you feel/believe/fear is reflected right back at you – and also mirrored in your own Personal Prophesy card readings. But as you open yourself to the immense amount of opportunity and true possibility that exists in the Universe which naturally happens when you learn to read your own cards by this method, you come to realize that you are more in charge of your own existence than you ever thought you could be.
For instance, if you have been raised to believe that love is a weakness (resulting from your own past abuse, neglect or a generally dysfunctional family life to which so many of us can relate), you simply cannot give love to someone else from a healthy position of strength no matter how much education you have nor how high your position in society might be.
You are essentially operating from that deep-seated perspective of weakness as if you are hiding in the shadows of life and others are out reveling in the sunlight. Everything you do, every expression of love you try to give, every commitment you attempt to make will be crippled by that sense of weakness.
How do you change that…ridding yourself of that horrible inherent sense of weakness in terms of loving?
Some would tell you to get a puppy – let the puppy teach you how to love from a position of strength. I’m not going to suggest something like that. I’m going to ask you to do something bigger and perhaps much scarier:
Start by loving yourself.
That’s right: Yourself.
Not just “kinda sorta” love yourself – but completely. Freely. Unconditionally.
After all, if we truly believe that the Higher Power created us, we then acknowledge that we were created out of supreme love because that is the power and true essence of the Universe: Love!
When we learn how to believe in love, how to live a love-filled life, when we completely walk in love…there isn’t anything that can possibly make us feel weak again. It starts by truly, completely, unconditionally loving ourselves. And that kind of love is healing in every sense of the word.
You can being to accomplish that by meditation. I’ve achieve amazing results for myself through guided meditation. The practice of meditation completely healed me of my decades-old affliction of anxiety panic disorder. Plus, I came from an intensely dysfunctional family background. I was able to resolve myself of the afflictions of this background by learning how to give myself intuitive card readings by the Personal Prophesy method of card reading, which I’ve used for the last 30 years.
This method, once you’ve learned it for yourself, will guide you, encourage you, empower you in terms of being able to love yourself – and others – in the most complete sense.
You’ll perceive your flaws, things you don’t like about yourself in the cards, yes. But you’ll also perceive how great your own potential is in terms of the life you’re living and your own immense capacity for genuinely loving in those cards as well. You’ll be able to perceive your own life’s path in the present and where it’s taking you in the future. An entirely changeable path – once you are able to perceive where you are in terms of your life and the path you are taking to the future.
Be patient with others.
Realize that everyone in your life is operating from his or her own value system created from their own personal life experiences and they may not see things the same way that you do.
By learning how to read your own cards, Personal Prophesy will give you insight into the lives of others and enable you to understand what makes them “tick.” Why they react as they do. What their intentions honestly are toward you and whether they are truly worthy of your own trust and faith.
You will learn to love those who are closest to you for their imperfections and faults simply by perceiving the true essence of their lives in your readings, understanding them on a deep, intuitive level. That kind of insight can be literally priceless.
Personal Prophesy card readings will give you rich insight into their lives and their interactions with you. You’ll be able to perceive through the cards that friends, relatives and romantic partners aren’t on the same level as you are emotionally, psychologically and even spiritually. Such insight makes it possible for you to relate better to them, to understand in a sense “where they’re coming from” and enables you to be more patient with them as they “come up to speed” with where you happen to be in your dealings with them.
Forgive yourself.
Yes, forgive yourself! The person you were in days gone by, making unwise choices that took you down a painful, faulty path is not who you are today. You’ve learned important lessons from the past. Now it’s time to strive to let the past go. The past is little more than ashes sitting in a fireplace. You don’t want to spend your the rest of your life sifting through ashes, do you?
No, of course not.
So let yourself off the hook for the past you’ve led. It’s dead and gone. The more you resurrect the past in your own mind, the more you keep yourself imprisoned by that fireplace filled with ashes! If you struggle with the process of letting go, I frequently advise clients who come to me for readings who yearn to release themselves from the past to use the following exercise:
Take a doll to a deserted beach, into the woods, even in the far reaches of your own backyard if you have no other secluded place to go. Hold that doll, cradle it and tell yourself that this doll represents your past.
Cry if you feel the need as you embrace the doll, re-affirming to yourself that the past represented by that doll has died and you are mourning the past for all your own misguided intentions in those days.
Then dig a hole and bury the doll – with it, your sorrow, your sadness, your regrets. Give your past an important, meaningful burial. When you feel ready, leave the burial site knowing that you are now stepping out into a new day and time for yourself. Literally bury the past and leave it there. It has no place or meaning in terms of your future.
Clients have come back and told me this exercise was extremely cleansing and rejuvenating for them on both an emotional and spiritual level.
Have faith in yourself and your own future.
Yes, faith! Faith, next to love, is about as bonded as you can get with the Universe. Faith can literally perform miracles if open yourself wholeheartedly to it.
Visualize faith this way: You are standing on the brink of nothing but sheer impossibility but you have faith. Faith that when you open your arms wide and you thrust yourself toward the abyss of nothingness, your own faith will give you wings and take you to the other side.
That is the true essence and definition of faith. Without that kind of deep abiding commitment in terms of faith, we are basically only pretending in terms of faith. Faith involves giving our all…believing in what has yet to become reality…confident that no matter what, faith will give us what we need, when we need it.
If you truly have that kind of faith – if you believe the impossible can become possible, if you can thrust yourself toward the unknown and say to yourself, “What I need will come to me when I need it” – you will never be afraid again. Genuine faith will lead you and guide you, bringing you exactly what you need.
I’ve seen the evidence of this kind of faith in my own life. The cards continually urged me to have faith and I did just that. Ten years ago, I wasn’t dating, wasn’t socializing – I was busy raising my children and focusing on my work. Still, the cards insisted my true soulmate was on the way.
He came to me very ironically at a time when I least expected anyone to enter my life. But I had faith through those dark, lonely years. And there he was. We will celebrate another wedding anniversary next June.
If you have faith – and the cards in your own readings will support your faith – you don’t have to go looking for the future. It will literally come to you.
It happened for me. It will happen for you.
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Sunday, November 1st, 2009
 Some call stockpiling money being frugal when you are fortunate enough to make a lot of it. Especially if you are fortunate enough to do so during a period of national recession.
When it comes to celebrities who are paid millions for their faces on film in one form or another and don’t freely share their wealth with the world, what would you call it?
Those celebs who follow the philosophy of abundance understand that by living simple lives materially and allowing wealth to pass freely through them into the world for the benefit of others, more abundance will surely follow. They are believers who have complete faith that the flow of abundance will never end.
And they are, as a result, true recipients of the amazing benefits of abundance through the law of attraction.
Other celebs who hold on tight to their wealth are actually hoarding money, robbing the world of beautiful blessings.
The richest of the rich who think that they are “abundant” when they throw a few million here or there – as Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie frequently do – but still cling to the majority of their wealth, are actually embracing scarcity beliefs with the hoarding of such wealth, rather than having faith in true abundance.
These millionaires believe they are abundant in their giving, but in reality they aren’t in the least.
They’re hoarding because they don’t trust the flow of abundance to always continue, and therefore feel they have to stockpile a big bunch of money “for a rainy day” when the universe stops flowing.
That isn’t abundance at all.
Abundance is about us having faith that by allowing wealth to pass through us, the universe will continue to bring more wealth to us.
What celebrities are too busy fearing scarcity and hoarding their wealth?
For starters, the following:
Jay Leno who is quoted as saying, “”When I was a kid … I had one job which the money went in the bank and the other job that I lived off of,” he said in 2004.
“I still do that to this day. I have yet to touch a dime of my Tonight Show salary. I live off the money I make as a comedian … Maybe it comes from having parents who grew up during the Depression.”
No, it comes from being selfish and not believing in abundance.
Here’s a man with a huge fleet of cars and motorcycles. A TV icon who was shamed into offering to cover the salaries of laid off staff members during the writers’ strike after Conan O’Brien came forward first with the idea, making Leno the focus of a lot of bad press as a result.
Hardly a “from the heart” gesture on Leno’s part, if you know what I mean.
Richard Dreyfuss, the actor we all know and love, sued an uncle and his own father over a loan he made to them back in 1984. The loan and interest on it have thus far remained unpaid. Reportedly, he wants full repayment of the loan, plus interest and punitive damages.
Dreyfuss is an Academy Award winner, an actor with a lucrative career that practically runs a mile long. Yet here he is, demanding that his own dad repay him money he loaned him, what, 25 years ago? Money he couldn’t possibly need after all the acting he’s done in movies since the late ’60’s.
And to also charge that his father and uncle have acted with “fraud” and “malice?” Amazing what money will do to some people.
Eva Longoria is a popular actress on “Desperate Housewives.”
According to Wallet Pop, her wedding in 2007 reportedly cost $1.5 million, but this star still scored a lot of freebies to give to her 200 guests: Van Cleef & Arpel 18K yellow gold charm bracelets, and L’Oreal, Cole Haan, and Bebe products were a few.
She says the ‘frugal gene’ runs in her family, explaining that her dad would take her and her three siblings camping with no food. “
He would tell us that we could live off the land. I can skin a deer, a pig, a snake … “
How desperate a hoader has she become?
Dave Grohl, ex-Nirvana drummer who brought together and formed Foo Fighters is another serious hoarder.
“You can’t take your lifestyle for granted,” 39-year-old Grohl said in a 2003 interview. “I’ve got tons of money, but I’m afraid to spend it. Knowing I don’t even have a high school diploma to fall back on, I’m going to be really careful with what I’ve got.”
So while he has a large house with a recording studio in Los Angeles, Grohl is not likely to end up bankrupt like some of his musical brethren. He also isn’t likely to ever experience the blessing of abundance through giving to help his fellow man.
Other Hollywood hoarders include Tyra Banks, Mick Jagger, Tobey Maguire, Teri Hatcher, Jerry Seinfeld – to name just a few.
The rest of us can feel satisfaction from the fact that we give openly and freely to others in our daily lives, even though we may not have much.
Remember, in terms of psychic awareness and how we live our lives on a daily basis: Abundance isn’t about how much we have to give, but how freely we give it.
The Universe will respond in kind, giving back to us exactly the same.
Psychic awareness will teach you that. So will learning to read ordinary playing cards by the Personal Prophesy method. I use this system in all of my readings – for others and myself.
You will learn the difference between scarcity and abundance in your life from these readings, I promise you!
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Sunday, September 6th, 2009
Insights on being an Official Guide on Selfgrowth.com
My term as an Official Guide on Selfgrowth.com is coming to an end.
My own readings had advised me from the very start not to take this step, but even I go against my own card readings from time to time! Yes, as hard as that may be to believe, even those of us who should heed our own psychic insights, so often don’t.
I’d like to share here my thoughts on the experience (again, which was ill-advised by my own Psychic Love Doctor readings, perceived a year ago).
Selfgrowth.com is a decent enough website. I can’t complain about the way it is handled nor the way it is operated. It provides you with the opportunity to submit articles and links to your own website for free.
That’s always nice, right?
A plethora of information and self-help information is available on the website with a mere click of your mouse. You can also choose to sell your wares, pontificate on just about any topic within the self-help realm that you desire. You don’t even have to use proper spelling, grammar or syntax as many Selfgrowth.com articles clearly demonstrate - but that isn’t always such a bad thing.
As I said, it’s a decent enough website.
Selfgrowth.com is also a website that likes to make money. And it accomplishes that mission extremely well by offering ‘experts’ in any given field the opportunity to become Official Guides as long as they each have $3000 to pay for that yearly position.
I bought in to be one of the Official Guides and the search engine boost for me has been phenomenal. Not only in terms of receiving new clients – which proved to be huge – but also in the amount of email spam I received. Sure, spam comes with the territory today no matter where you hang your Internet shingle. That really didn’t turn me off.
What turned me off completely to the whole Selfgrowth.com experience as an Official Guide was how desperate so many other Official Guides were to try to get me to promotionally “piggyback” with them so they could sell their shtick.
It was as if they literally came out of the woodwork. I tried to ignore the majority with no response to their cloying advertising pleas. But so many came in that I finally started firing back.
My question to them was, “Wait a minute…if you are so good at what YOU do, why do you need ME to help you sell it?”
None of them ever had an answer to give me.
If such constant bombardment from other “Official Guides” wasn’t enough, the Selfgrowth.com staff tended to drive me a little crazy with an influx of email invitations.
“Come to this training session,” or “Do this to make your own Guide status here more profitable!”
I would email back, “No thank you, I’m too busy,” but it didn’t stop the onslaught of email from them. In time, I just stopped reading any of it.
You know what? My suspicions are that these beseechings to are really only intended to make Selfgrowth.com that much more profitable – not for the “Guides” per se, but for the Selfgrowth.com business itself. And yes, these training sessions are free for Guides and yes, it can be advantageous for those who choose to participate.
But think about it.
If you have a successful website to start with, why would you want to badger your paying sponsors (Official Guides) to do “more” – if they are already successful enough to qualify as “experts” in the Guide category?
Realistically, you wouldn’t.
And you certainly wouldn’t want your “Official Guides” to be begging other “Guides” to help them out in selling their own products and services. These “experts” should be doing so well on their own that they don’t need to reach out in desperation to get others to boost you up. Otherwise, what kind of expert is actually wearing that Guide hat?
Such questioning on my part caused me to stop participating. Why put energy into something so shallow?
No qualifying standards: Anyone can be an Official Guide
I don’t discount that there are some actual experts featured and advertising on Selfgrowth.com; however, for there to be so many seemingly qualified experts teeming Selfgrowth.com’s pages seems highly unlikely. Consider that there is no standard to actually qualify you to be a Guide.
You’re told that you have an “awesome” website when the sales guy calls you on the phone and the email enticement you’re sent is sooo complimentary, telling you that you are “outstanding in your field” when you know that, yes, you’re good but let’s face it, very few are that good to be true “experts.”
When it comes to Selfgrowth.com, they don’t ask for samples of your work, they don’t make you work for it, they don’t examine your credentials in any way, shape or form. I’ve worked as a content provider in my field for many major websites and they all required each of these in order to qualify for placement on their sites.
With Selfgrowth.com, if you have the funds to pay for your “guide-ship” , you are in. And you have the freedom to do just about whatever you like with your little Guide corner given to you on Selfgrowth.com.
You do get a nice inbound link to your own website. That doesn’t hurt a bit…being sent a little “link love” from a major website with good Page Rank? Absolutely.
But there is a feeling about SelfGrowth.com that makes it seem like a glorified, well orchestrated Web ring – and I suspect that web crawlers in time will discover that these sites are, bottom line, really only selling artificial inbound links. No matter how you dress it up or the kind of authoritative language you attach to it, a link bought and paid for is not the same as true link popularity from websites that earnestly want to give you that link, which will elevate your own website in terms of page rank overall.
That, plus those who give a reciprocal link back to their Guide area on Selfgrowth.com aren’t gaining much in terms of optimization. Better to stick with true, quality inbound links that come without a price attached. Better to be your own expert in your own right without someone else selling it to you.
So in conclusion, I’m abdicating my Official Guide status because:
- I already have more than enough clients and repeat business to keep me happy for a good long while
- I’m not the least bit desperate where I need to join forces with other Official Guides who come across as very desperate to ask me to help them sell their products and services
- There is no actual standard or “excellence bar” on this website to determine what qualifies an expert to be an expert or it might have been a privilege to be a Guide on Selfgrowth.com
Hopefully this answers the questions many of you have posed to me in email about “why” I’m on Selfgrowth.com and whether or not this has been a good experience for me.
A good experience? Not so much, but then my own card readings previously advised me not to take this path, which I realize now is due to the fact that I would inevitably wish I hadn’t taken this path at all.
If Selfgrowth.com based its Official Guide program entirely on merit and expertise, that would be a different story. It wouldn’t even matter having to put up three grand to be a part of it all.
However, the huge influx of pandering emails from other Guides to help them succeed and the Selfgrowth staff’s manipulations in their constant emails to make it seem as if they were “helping” instead of only trying to make the site for themselves that much more prosperous, made me realize this is not a place I want to be.
I have no ill feelings toward Selfgrowth.com. It just isn’t what I expect to be and I leave it disappointed – exactly as my card readings a year ago revealed I would be.
It just goes to show that I need to pay closer attention to my own Psychic Love Doctor readings for the future.
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Saturday, August 29th, 2009
Are you someone who hasn’t led a very easy life emotionally and now tend to live very much on the defensive or as if you just don’t care? Trust me, there’s hope.
You don’t have to wear that emotional “cement overcoat” forever.
In Psychic Love Doctor card readings, your cards will signal right off the bat that many in the past whom you’ve tried to get close to, invest yourself in and ultimately, feel a strong loving attachment to have only let you down in the end.
These experiences will be perceived to have caused you to feel a considerable amount of emotional pain over the years to the extent that you’ve learned to process pain by protecting yourself through the wearing of an emotional “cement overcoat,” which compels you to treat others in an extremely harsh, abrasive manner in the process.
It’s important that you try to let yourself off the hook where guilt and regret are concerned in order to heal. Your defenses are perceived to have been created as a result of the experiences you’ve had in past relationships, which were, intuitively speaking, completely beyond your control.
Psychic Love insights lead to self discovery
Psychic Love Doctor readings will always, always indicate that you are involved in a crucial period of self-discovery when you become more aware of mistakes in judgment you’ve made where relationships are concerned in the past. As a result, you will be that much more empowered to change the course of your life for the better once you resolve the deep, inner pain you feel. Only then will you will be able to focus on achieving a happier, more fulfilling life for yourself in the future.
Realizing that you now wear a cement overcoat emotionally is definitely a step in the right direction in the sense that it confirms your desire for awareness so that you can change the path you are following to the future. Enabling you, by having that awareness, that you are more than ready to embrace a happier life for yourself now.
To achieve that happiness, I urge you to be gentler with yourself. Most importantly, forgive yourself. You are not a cruel person or making a fool of yourself. You are just an individual who has endured so many hurts and lingering wounds in your life that you feel the need to strike out at others simply to protect yourself from more pain.
I suggest that while you are trying to shed that cement overcoat that when you make a comment to someone and you know it’s unkind, you immediately force yourself to say, “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to say that to you, I’m just going through a rough time right now.”
The more you can try to open yourself up to healing by being honest about yourself, the more that healing will have a chance to occur.
Psychic Love healing starts with those we love
It’s always been my perception that those closest to us when we are wearing that overcoat still cares for us but are in dire need of a sincere apology. Write or phone these individuals to tell them you are sorry. Let them know that you only wish true happiness for them.
Then concentrate on that good thought by allowing your loved ones to travel their own path to the future – regardless of whether it is with you or without you.
By sending positive energy out to others this way, you might be very surprised to find those most hurt by you in the past re-entering your life again in the future.
Those who wear such emotional cement overcoats are perceived to have been travelling a difficult, rugged road for themselves for quite a long period of time.
But by re-directing yourself toward forgiveness and understanding, you make it possible to be able to achieve both for yourself in the end.
Want more Love Doctor insights? Learn to conduct your own Psychic Love Doctor readings from my book, “The Message: Your Secrets In the Cards”, published by O Books. Become your own psychic…it doesn’t get better than that!
Tags: intuitive, love, psychic, readings, relationships
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Saturday, August 29th, 2009
In all the years I’ve spent giving Psychic Love Doctor readings, I have never perceived one particular individual as a perfect “mate” for anyone. That is good news for all of us!
Intuitively speaking, we all have the opportunity to enter into a multitude of relationships depending on how we choose to actually lead our lives from the emotional level.
All of these relationships are intended to teach us something meaningful.
Some of these relationships are deep and challenging, the kind that fall in the category of “soul mates.”
Other relationships enter our life to guide us toward a certain understanding of life, to teach us something – or simply to enable us to grow.
Many of us choose a single partner for life, others may commit to two or more partners in a lifetime, still more may simply choose to remain partnerless, achieving personal happiness in life on their own.
These are choices we make for ourselves as we live our lives.
It doesn’t always mean, however, that we will find the happiness we search for in a relationship. More times than not it’s a fruitless search…Why?
Because the happiness we seek is ultimately only to be found within ourselves.
In Psychic Love Doctor readings, the term “soul mate” is characterized as someone intended to enter your life path at a certain point in time and challenge you on a number of levels, specifically mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is not necessarily the partner you are meant to spend all Eternity with.
Your soul mate is perceived to be your twin “you” in some respects but in others, the opposite aspects that you are striving to overcome.
Once you achieve genuine happiness from within yourself without having to receive it from an external source, as in a partner who makes you feel happy, you are no longer at the mercy of another’s feelings to bring you the happiness you need. You’ve created it for yourself by being happy from the inside out, rather from the outside in.
Once you achieve that kind of personal happiness for yourself, you empower yourself to be able to give to a partner, to others, even the world in general – the best part of yourself.
Psychic Love Doctor readings intuitively guide us toward such growth and expansion in our lives. They reveal to us the secret to finding true personal happiness…in ourselves.
Find out where you are on your own personal path to genuine happiness and the kind of relationship destined for you that will lead to lasting joy and love by learning the method I use to perceive the future for myself and others. My book, “The Message: Your Secrets In the Cards teaches you step-by-step how to become your own best psychic.
Tags: happiness, intuitive, life, love, mate, psychic, readings, relationships, soul
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Saturday, August 29th, 2009
In a large number of Psychic Love Doctor readings, I clearly see extremely loving and caring individuals who try their utmost to make the best of situations in their lives.
Even when they know they aren’t experiencing a deep sense of personal happiness from these situations, many of them still come through as managing to find a place of balance for themselves somewhere in the mix of things.
This ability to ‘adapt’ to what Life hands us is truly an admirable quality.
Unfortunately, it’s difficult to spend an entire lifetime merely settling for what we have – when our hearts yearn to embrace so much more.
Particularly where love and happiness is concerned: My perception is that we deny ourselves some of Life’s most fulfilling moments in order to maintain that balance, because we try to adapt so well to less than satisfactory circumstances.
My perception from these Psychic Love Doctor card readings will generally indicate a period of major change developing when we just sit mired in such complacency. While partners might profess never to leave their marriages or relationships, the cards will indicate it is extremely possible that will happen over the course of the next few years.
It’s important to remember that the cards hold a very strong “meant to be” quality in terms of our relationships with others. Intuitively speaking, marriages are often perceived to be in a state of flux or decline for quite some time. When affairs take shape, it isn’t that a drifting partner “wants his cake and to eat it too”, it’s more that the relationship itself has grown stagnant and unfulfilling for both spouses. One just happens to be more adaptable than the other.
The pressure of being so adaptable will inevitably lead toward a huge emotional showdown or blow-out. We can only placate an unfulfilling existence for so long.
The best thing you can ever possibly do for yourself is refuse to simply settle in life – whether it’s a job, a living arrangement, marriage, family situation – you owe it to yourself to always reach for true happiness and fulfillment.
Anything less puts you on the downside of being adaptable…an extremely unrewarding place to be.
Tags: adaptable, card, happiness, intuitive, love, psychic, readings, settling
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Friday, August 28th, 2009
Often in Psychic Love Doctor card readings, the cards will indicate that your partner is not ready to commit to his or her feelings for the long haul. As a result, a breakup occurs and you may become all the more frustrated and perplexed as time continues to pass.
If you can try to see your life and the life he or she is living independently of you as being on two entirely different levels at this point – that he/she still has a considerable amount of emotional growing to do – it should become easier in the long run to get yourself through this difficult period.
For the present, I suggest that you love him/her enough to allow him/her the freedom to follow his/her own path toward understanding about the two of you and that you concentrate on your own faith that what is meant to be will “be” in its own way and time.
This is perhaps the hardest lesson of all in terms of Personal Prophesy card readings - allowing others to go through their own emotional paces to achieve that all-important, higher understanding.
Strive to “let go” and allow the one you love the time he/she needs to become ready for you. In the meantime, focus on bettering yourself and becoming the person you are intended to be for the future.
For women: I feel very certain in conducting readings that you will hear from your ex again via telephone or email, but you are really going to have to hold yourself back when you do. Seem cheerful, very happy to hear from him. Express negatively “heavy” emotions or your deep disappointment over his having ended things between you and he will again disappear – I guarantee it. There is no doubt in my mind that men are driven by nature to try to “preserve themselves.”
Men are strange creatures when it comes to their hearts, ladies. Intuitively speaking, they will so often try to insulate and protect themselves from the very person they hold most dear.
Therefore, give him time to come around in his way of thinking and feeling. Allow him the space he needs to come to the realization of how much he misses you.
Generally within three to six months (if not sooner), you and the one you love will re-start the relationship you’ve shared – but it will be a better, more fulfilling relationship for you the second time around.
You can become this intuitive about relationships like this in your own life by picking up a copy of my book, “The Message: Your Secrets In the Cards” published by O Books. It’s on sale now!
Tags: couple, intuitive, living apart, love, men, Personal Prophesy, psychic, readings, women
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